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Divorce- the side-effects


Divorce is never easy. You will find that it can be extremely painful at times, but it also takes a lot of time to recover from all of the hurt and pain from the divorce.
  • Divorce will destroy your self-esteem.You may go into a depression.Most people will do things that are very destructive. They will go out and hook up with random people. They will begin to drink too much, and they may even get into drugs.
  • The key is to find the positive things in your life and figure out what it takes for you to make things better. You will be able to make things better when you move towards people who love you and allow others to show their support.
  • You will want to learn how to accept the divorce and then make a plan on how you can deal with each day. Make sure that you do everything you can to move through the motions and not get lost, because it is so easy to just not get up in the morning or allow the depression to take over.
  • Always remember that there is never a door closed without a window of possibility. The divorce is a new chapter in your life and once it passes, you will be able to get your life back together and find happiness. It is human nature to feel depressed and hurt, but it is also natural to want to feel happy. Find what makes you happy and stick to it until you are able to stand on your own and pursue new goals.

Why Children are Impacted by Divorce


  • Fear of Change. The children in a divorcing family know that nothing will ever be the same again, and their previously secure world is in a state of change. Many things will change, not just that mother or dad will not be around. Their bedtime, mealtime and after school routines may change.

  • Fear of Being Abandoned. When mom and dad are at odds and are either separated or considering separation, children have a realistic fear that if they lose one parent, they may lose the other. The concept of being alone in the world is a very frightening thing for a child.

  • Losing Attachment. Children who have a natural attachment for their parents also fear losing other secure relationships-friends, pets, , neighbors, and so on. Sometimes children are simply attached to their surroundings, and moving into new surroundings can cause an understandable negative reaction.

  • Coping with Parental Tension. Even though many divorces follow years of tension between husband and wife, the tension level typically increases during and shortly after a divorce. And parents who try to turn their children against the other spouse create an absolutely impossible situation for that child.

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